The Importance of Female Friendship

In regards to friends, I hit the absolute jackpot.

The women I have in my life are incredible. I don't throw the term powerhouse around too often, but the group of girls I have all around me are just that; women that are making strides and living freely and are taking over the world. Friends that offer me continuous support and validate my feelings. I have found the most comfort in my female friends. They show me continuous love and support and are always validating my feelings when I'm feeling a little crazy.

In the past, girls were raised to compete with one another, whether it's for jobs, boys, or clothes. We must always have the best and it must always be better than what so-and-so has in our class. We are taught to secretly be bitter and vengeful when someone gets something we feel we deserve or just desperately want. But that isn't the case anymore. I don't need to compete anymore, and nor do I want to. I would much rather spend my time strengthening my friendships. Girls are building each other up and focusing on building beautiful friendships full of support and love. When you find a strong group of friends, there isn't that feeling of bitterness or jealousy; there is just a lot of love, laughter, and a lot of cups of tea.

It took me awhile to find my true tribe, or squad, or crew. 

Regardless of what we feel like calling it that day, it's really hard for girls to find a good group of friends. Especially when we are still growing and maturing and trying to figure out who we are and what we want in friends. I was in and out of friend groups throughout my life, but I've always had a good set of friends to fallback to when I realized the people I was hanging out with didn't always have my best interests at heart. All of my friends have a few things in common; they are compassionate, they are strong, they are loving, they are truthful, and they are supportive. They pick me up and dust me off, and I do the same for them. We tend to each other's wounds, we listen to each other's fears and dreams and desires, we are 100% candid with our words. 

The greatest people I know are women.

I was speaking with my friend Sim about love and heartache and the power of having incredible female friends. When we are suffering, our friends create a forcefield around us. They offer comforting words, constructive criticism, and a whole lot of love. They teach us to grow, to change, to think. They remind us that we are strong even when we don't feel like we can do on. They tell us how much they love us. We get through the hard events by leaning on our friends. We get through hard events with friends that have hands out and ready to pick us up when we need it. Our friends guide us back on the path, our friends hold our hands when we need it, our friends make us tea and bring us ice cream and just love us endlessly. 

They see us at our worst. They see us when our makeup is running down our face and we are crying and not feeling very strong, like when I saw something I really didn't need to see when I was sitting in Starbucks and I immediately started the waterworks. The same girl that was with me in that Starbucks was the same girl I ran to in the hallway in high school when I was crying over a boy. My best friend, my soulmate, and the girl that shared my deep, passionate love for Nick Jonas. I owe the world to that ray of sunshine.

The friendship I have with the women in my life is indescribable. I can lay in bed with them for 24 hours, watching Netflix and eating waffles and have the most wonderful time ever. I can recite the same lines from the same movie over and over again with them and they get it. I can send them selfies and receive a million fire emojis. I can sit in a café for hours talking about everything with them. I can pour my heart and soul into each and every one of them and have them do the exact same back. I can text them at 1am my time and wake up to text messages full of love and support from them when it's 6am their time. I can depend on them when I need it and vice versa. I know that every person is only a text or a video chat or a drive away.

Females are strong as hell

I've lived my 22 year old life watching the strength of my mother and the kindness of my grandmother. My mother is the strongest women I know. She has changed the way I view the world and has been working her whole life to make mine better. She is the woman I aspire to be. My grandmother has a golden heart; she's always giving to whoever needs it and is always the first person that will help me out when I need it. She is the woman I aspire to be.

I've taken these two qualities that have shaped me into the person I am today and use them whenever I can. I want to be strong for all of my friends; I want to be a lifeboat that will never sink and is always there to save them when they are far from shore. I want to be kind when the world is being cruel; I want to spread the light that has imbedded itself in me through my grandmother and pass it on when my friends are not being very kind to themselves. 

To the women I look up to..

Thank you for your endless source of inspiration and motivation. I can't wait to be a woman that others look up to, just like how I look up to you.

To the women that have paved the way for me, thank you for making my path a lot easier to walk on. I promise to help pave the way for the girls that follow me so their own journey is easier, too.

To the women I know here and there and everywhere, thank you for your transatlantic friendship and love. I truly have girls all around the world ready and armed to send me advice and support, and I am so lucky for that.

To the women that I know and knew and will know in the future, thank you for your presence in my life. We may not be friends anymore, but you did have a special place in my heart. You helped me grow and learn. To the women I have not met yet.. I'm excited to meet you and to hear all about your life.

To the women I am so lucky to call my friends, thank you. I love you, I love you, I love you. You are the foundation my house is built on; you are the paint and pictures on the walls, and you are the teacups in my cupboards and the books on my shelves. You bring the structure, strength and stability that I need, the creativity and inspiration I desire, and the wisdom and kindness that brings me to life. I would not be half the woman I am today without you. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 

Pictured: Three girls that were full of eggs benedict + coffee and collectively decided that the best way to burn off all of that food was to frolick around a lake. 

Not pictured: All of the other incredible women I know and love so much. Thank you for your friendship. Thank you for taking my photo when I needed a new one. Thank you for sticking by me and always being on my side. I love you all.

twitter instagram pinterest bloglovin' facebook