In 2013, Oxford Dictionary named Selfie as the word of the year. If you're reading this, you probably already know what it means (a photograph that one has taken of oneself, typically one taken with a smartphone or webcam and uploaded to a social media website), and you've probably already taken at least one selfie before. Lately, I've been reading/seeing a lot of hate for selfies and selfie-takers. As a selfie taker myself, I have a question for those saying rude things about people that take selfies: What's the issue?
A person who feels their best, takes a photo to document the moment and decides to share it with their friends. There is the argument "They don't need to share it with everyone to document it"
but as humans, we like receiving compliments. We like hearing "You look great today!"
or "You are adorable!".
When I post selfies, it's because I truly love how I look and I'm confident in my appearance for that split second my iPhone snaps a photo. It's not about being cocky, it's about feeling your best and wanting to spread that around, even if it's on social media.
So why do so many people look down at others for posting (beautiful!) photos of themselves? A few days ago, I came across this quote:
I’m definitely pro-selfie. I think that anybody who’s anti-selfie is really just a hater. Because, truthfully, why shouldn’t people take pictures of themselves? When I’m on Instagram and I see that somebody took a picture of themselves, I’m like, ‘Thank you.’ I don’t need to see a picture of the sky, the trees, plants. There’s only one you. I could Google image search ‘the sky’ and I would probably see beautiful images to knock my socks off. But I can’t Google, you know, ‘What does my friend look like today?’ For you to be able to take a picture of yourself that you feel good enough about to share with the world – I think that’s a great thing. - Ezra Koenig
After years of terrible confidence and lots of doubt, it took me a long time to be 100% okay with my appearance. Loving myself inside and out and being confident in front of other people was incredibly hard. Being comfortable in front of a camera and choosing to take a photo of how I look/feel was something that didn't happen overnight. Years and years of feeling awkward and uncomfortable and not knowing what "looking good" actually meant. To me, looking good is when you feel so confident and so comfortable that you don't actually need to "look decent". Whether looking good to you means wearing your favourite outfit and took an #ootd selfie, or it means you curled your hair when you got ready this morning and wanted to snap a photo of it, if you're confident enough to take a photo of YOUR (beautiful!) FACE and post it on the internet, I don't think anyone should be rude or make fun of you for that.
My first photo on Instagram from 2 years ago is actually a selfie, and I remember exactly how I felt when I was taking it. I was incredible happy about finding my dream dress, I was happy about being with my friends, and I was happy at how great my hair looked. Your confidence sky rockets when you feel 100% comfortable with yourself, and for that reason alone, I am a pro-selfie taker. I strongly believe in self-confidence and self-love, and I'm going to defend people that take selfies for as long as I have instagram.
My selfie taking has documented traveling across the world, trying out a new hairstyle, and just drinking any hot beverage this gal can find. I love seeing faces of my friends while scrolling through my instagram. I get to see the faces of friends that live far away. I get to see a daily "Here is my face! Look at how lovely I am!" update. I get to see faces of friends that are so happy with life, they decided to let the world see how happy they are, too. Loving yourself isn't a crime, and spreading the love you have for yourself isn't a crime either. (If people don't like it, you don't need their selfie-hating self around anyways)
|A never before seen (old) car selfie. Taking car selfies is an art. (The art of avoiding contact of other people in cars.)|
Instead of being rude about the selfie posts, why don't we encourage self-love and self-confidence.
Next time you're scrolling on your newsfeed and you come across a selfie, before you go and hate on someone spreading their confidence, snap a photo of yourself instead. Notice all of the beautiful things that make up you. Post it to the world. Let everyone see how great and confident you are.
I've tweeted #LoveThySelfie a few times before (here and here), but now I'm being serious when I say I want to start a pro-selfie revolution. I want everyone to post selfies! I want to see happy, smiling faces of people that feel their best. So, from now on, I'll be posting the #LoveThySelfie tag on all of the photos I take of myself and post on the internet, because why not? No one is stopping me.
Viva la selfie!
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